Hi, y’all…how
are ya? I’m Kayce Lassiter and I’m
thrilled to be here!
Marie Patrick
– Thank you, sweetie, for that wonderful intro.
You made me feel so welcome and I’m soooo excited about working with you
all here on HEAT. But I gotta say, I
read that lovely intro and after wallowing in the warm welcome a few minutes,
panic set in when I thought...Holy Cow,
what am I gonna write about? Then I
spent an agonizing couple of days waiting for inspiration to strike. The damn thing musta been hit by a bus before
it ever got into my neighborhood because that stinking inspiration just never
showed up. Now what? Argh!
Agony! So I read that intro again
and decided if I was to write about life, love, and laughter, then maybe I
should pick one and have a clear image in my head of exactly what it is. Should I pick life? Or maybe love? Or maybe laughter? Which one is the most important? Well, since we are talking about romance here
and the proverbial happily ever after ending, I chose LOVE . So for a clear definition of LOVE, I
went…where else?...the internet. Because
we all know they can’t put anything on the internet that ain’t true. Right?
Well, what I
found is that LOVE seems to be so many things to so many people, and
rarely is it the same for all. Webster’s
Dictionary defines LOVE as:
Strong affection for another arising out of kinship
or personal ties; affection based on admiration, benevolence, or
common interests; warm attachment,
enthusiasm, or devotion; unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of
another.
Really? That's it? Seems to fall a bit short
to me. Kind of sounds like a Labrador I
once had, except there’s no mention of a cold nose. Does it fall short for you? Okay, I needed more…this can’t be the
ever-elusive LOVE that
everyone chases, everyone dreams about, everyone craves, even sometimes kills
for. I ask you, would you kill for a
“strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties”? I didn’t think so!
So I started researching love quotes and that’s when I really started
getting a very different picture of what love really is. Here are some of my favorite love quotes,
and, please, I tried to do my best to find a source for every quote. But some I just couldn’t find. So if you recognize something and feel I have
attributed it incorrectly, please feel free to let me know and forgive me. After all, it is the internet and the source
of all things perfect. J
What LOVE is...
"Love is like a Rubix Cube, there are countless numbers
of wrong twists and turns, but when you get it right, it looks perfect no
matter what way you look at it."
~ Brian Cramer
Ever been there? You wake up each morning wearing rose colored
glasses. Everything is perfect and
always will be. You’re going to
live…wait for it…Happily Ever After.
J (Had to!)
Well, there’s more.
"Love is being stupid together."
~ Paul Valery
Uh…yeaaah, who hasn’t been there?
He says, “Let’s have sex in the elevator, no one will see us.” “Uhhhhh…ok.”
DUH! Now we’re talking something
to kill for!
“Love is a fire. But whether it
is going to warm your heart or burn down your house you can never tell.”
~Joan Crawford
“Love is an exploding cigar we
willingly smoke.”
~Lynda Barry
“You
know it’s love when you want to keep holding hands even after you’re sweaty.”
~unknown
to me
"Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just
won't adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is to sign on as its
accomplice. Instead of vowing to honor and obey, maybe we should swear to aid
and abet. That would mean that security is out of the question. The words
"make" and "stay" become inappropriate. My love for you has
no strings attached. I love you for free."
~ Tom Robbins
Now I think we’re getting a
little closer. LOVE is a fire, it’s warm; it’s an
outlaw that follows no rules, has no strings; it’s shared stupidity; it’s
willingly stepping into an explosion; it looks perfect from all angles. That’s
more like the LOVE we all know and yearn for, isn’t it? The whole “sweaty” thing is
creeping me out a little bit, but ok…I get it.
J
So, does LOVE
actually do
anything? What does it make us feel when we find it? What does it do to us? And the age old question…how long does it
last?
“You know you’re in love when you
can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
~Dr.
Seuss
“Trying
to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never met.”
~unknown
to me
“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.”
~Judy Garland
“A part of kindness
consists in loving people more than they deserve.”
~Joseph Joubert
“You will find as you
look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the
moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.”
~Henry Drummond
“Love makes your soul
crawl out from its hiding place.”
~Zora Neale Hurston
So, as it turns out, LOVE is better than dreams, unforgettable,
generous, soul-touching, life-building…and someone who has never felt their
soul claw its way out of that dark place has never loved. Woo Hoo, now they’re talkin’ my language…but I’m
thinking I still need more before I’m willing to kill for it…gimme more!
LOVE is fun…
“A
pair of powerful spectacles has sometimes sufficed to cure a person in love.”
~Friedrich Nietzsche
“Before
I met my husband, I'd never fallen in love. I'd stepped in it a few times.”
~Rita Rudner
Ouch!
Sometimes both of these can even happen on the same night, or even with
the same person! Of course, I’m not
sayin’ it’s ever happened to me that way (wink) …I’m just sayin’…
“An archeologist is the best husband any woman can have; the older she gets, the more interested he is in her.”
~Agatha
Christie
“A
man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him.”
~Brendan Francis
They probably should have added a sandwich
somewhere in that last quote. J
“All I really need is love, but a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt!”
~Charles M. Schulz
“I
love you like a fat kid loves cake.”
~unknown to me
Okay,
I can’t stop giggling every time I read that one. I know it’s politically incorrect and
extremely immature. What’s your
point? My very existence is politically
incorrect and who wants to be mature?
We’re talking love here…roll with it.
J
“Love
is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer bumpin’ uglies raises
some pretty good questions.”
~unknown to me
“One
day your prince will come. Mine just
took a wrong turn, got lost and is too stubborn to ask for directions.”
~Kinley MacGregor
I’m
thinkin’ the lost prince too stubborn to ask for directions thing might explain
a lot in my life…that’s the story I’m going with! J Maybe it’s time to look for an archaeologist,
and I don’t even want to think about what questions “bumpin’ uglies” might
raise!
Here is where I took a bit of a
left-turn and asked my son what he thought love was and he gave me a couple of
quotes that he attributes to his father…
“Love is like a fart. It makes you feel better, but pisses everyone
else off.”
“Love is a condition, not an
emotion. An emotion would be how you
feel about her big breasts.”
Okay, I think we can all see why
that relationship didn’t last forever.
LOL So much for that avenue,
let’s explore some more internet quotes.
J
LOVE is fierce…
“Sometimes I wonder if love is
worth fighting for, but then I remember your face and I’m ready for war.”
~Helen
Rowland
LOVE is blind…
“You
come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an
imperfect person perfectly.”
~Sam Keen
LOVE is confusing…
“I don’t miss him, I miss who I
thought he was.”
~unknown
to me
“Never make someone a priority when all you
are to them is an option.”
~Maya
Angelou
Thank you to my niece for giving
me that last quote at a time when the old gal really needed it. I love you, B-girl! J
LOVE is painful…
“The
hottest love has the coldest end.”
~Socrates
“True
love burns the brightest, but the brightest flames leave the deepest scars.”
~Brandi Snyder
The
pain of broken
LOVE can be healed…
“The
wounds of love can only be healed by the one who made them.”
~ Publilius Syrus
“Time heals all wounds.”
~unknown to me
There is life after
LOVE…
“Even if he doesn't like me tomorrow, I knew
he loved me yesterday.”
~unknown to me
“Don't
cry because it's over, smile because it happened.”
~Dr. Seuss
“I
could have missed the pain but I'd a had to miss the dance.”
~Garth Brooks
“Sometimes
the memories are worth the pain.”
~unknown to me
“Every
love gone wrong is one step closer to your own true love.”
~unknown to me
“Never
long for anyone from the past. There is a reason why they never made it to your
future.”
~unknown to me
LOVE
changes us forever…
“What we have once
enjoyed we can never lose. All that we
love deeply becomes a part of us.”
~Helen Keller
Well, let’s see if we have a
better idea now of what love is. Here’s
what I think we’ve got…
LOVE is a fire, it’s warm; it’s an outlaw that follows no rules, has no
strings; it’s shared stupidity; it’s willingly stepping into an explosion; it
looks perfect from all angles. LOVE
is better than dreams, unforgettable, generous,
soul-touching, life-building. LOVE
is fun, it is fierce, it is blind, it is confusing,
it is painful, it is healing. LOVE
can destroy us, it can save us, but it always
changes us forever.
Whaddayathink? Ready to kill for it? Well, I am…at least, in the writer’s sense,
anyway. My prayer is that every story I
write will help the reader experience this version of LOVE and not the Labrador version. May I never fall short!
This is my story and I’m stickin’ to it…hold
on tight now, cuz we’re gonna go real, real fast.
Love ya!
Kayce
